Here is a list of useful links
to all GPYB/GBOT/GPYP Resources
as well as abbreviations and sayings
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BOOKS
Books 1 and 2
Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
– this is the book that started it all – published by Hachette Book Group – one of the “big 5” publishers – under the Da Capo Perseus imprint – and we are proud to be listed on numerous, prestigious Best Breakup Books of All Time lists. For a partial list, go HERE
Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup
– this is NOT a dating book and should be read IN CONJUNCTION with GPYB (see below for how to use the books together to work the program). GBOT is also published by Hachette Book Group
TO ORDER THESE TWO BOOKS FROM ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD CLICK THIS BUTTON
Please remember to review the books on Amazon (or B&N) and review places like Good Reads ESPECIALLY Getting Back Out There! (it’s NOT a dating book! Get it EARLY in your breakup to understand what healthy relationships LOOK LIKE so you can slant your recovery in THAT direction!).
Getting Past Your Breakup on Good Reads HERE
Susan J. Elliott Quotes on Good Reads HERE
Getting Back Out There on Good Reads HERE
Please feel free to add to the Reviews on Good Reads AND the Quote page!!!
Book 3 – stay tuned!
The Third Book: When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You: How To Reject the Rejector, Heal Your Attachment Issues and Find Real Love
I am self-publishing this book via crowd-funding. Stay Tuned for details – FALL of 2019
If you support the podcast at a 9.99 level, you can have a choice of a Workbook, a Power Affirmations Booklet, a signed copy of GPYB or a signed copy of GBOT. If you support the podcast at a 19.99 level, you can have a choice of TWO of those. To go to the podcast support page and become a “Meanie,” go to https://www.patreon.com/meanladytalking
Workbook and Booklet Series
Getting Past Your Past: The Definitive Workbook to Emotional Healing, Health and Happiness
The workbook V3 is available for INSTANT DOWNLOAD HERE! It is available in Fillable .pdf and Non-fillable .pdf. You can print out the Fillable PDF but you can’t fill (on-line or on a device) the non-fillable version.
The GPYB Power! Affirmations Booklet!
The GPYP Booklet Series is an exciting NEW venture to expand upon the most important GPYB subjects.
The booklet V1 is available for INSTANT DOWNLOAD HERE It is available in Fillable .pdf and Non-fillable .pdf. You can print out the Fillable PDF but you can’t fill (on-line or on a device) the non-fillable version.
The Workbook V3 and Power! Affirmations
Click the Button for the Quick Buy Page
For Instructions on How To Use the Books
and the Workbook Together,
Click HERE:
SHORTENED PROGRAM CHECKLIST
FROM THE WORKBOOK
NEWSLETTER and SPECIAL OFFERS!
Once upon a time (2005), GPYB started with a newsletter! We have very very warm feelings for our newsletter subscribers – both new and old. Although every website invites you to subscribe to their newsletter, it is to wrangle you into buying things and many of these sites will email you RELENTLESSLY. That is SPAMMY and UNFAIR and NOT WHAT WE DO! There are ABSOLUTELY special offers ONLY available from the newsletter. We will NOT spam you – we will NOT email you every day.
Signup for our Newsletter HERE
PODCAST
The Mean Lady Talking podcast is the voice of GPYB. We hope to make it self-sustaining via Patreon supporters. Please rate and review wherever you listen. Every episode has a Show Notes page. At the end of every Show Notes page are the platforms and apps where you can listen. There is a Quick Guide to Episodes showing only the Episode number and topics. On the long Episodes page is a listing and links to every Show Notes page. Please subscribe on your favorite platform or app and stay active with the show. Write us HERE to tell us what you think or have questions or comments. There is also a contact form on the website.
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- The Mean Lady Talking podcast episodes are ALL available on GPYB’s YouTube channel. The MLT playlist is HERE
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Please support the Mean Lady Talking Podcast on Patreon HERE
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The VERY special Attachment, Rejection and Loss boot camp started JUNE 21, 2019 and THERE WILL NOT BE ANOTHER GPYB Boot Camp.
In August 2019 we will be offering courses, workshops and seminars and some smaller, less-intense (than the boot camps were) groups.
The first group will start September 13th. The registration opens August 15th and – like the boot camps – will be limited but will be less intense and less expensive. Please send email to susan@gettingpastyourbreakup.com for a registration form.
To stay informed of future exciting offerings, please please please SIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER!!!
NEWSLETTER and SPECIAL OFFERS!
Once upon a time (2005), GPYB started with a newsletter! We have very very warm feelings for our newsletter subscribers – both new and old. Although every website invites you to subscribe to their newsletter, it is to wrangle you into buying things and many of these sites will email you RELENTLESSLY. That is SPAMMY and UNFAIR and NOT WHAT WE DO! There are ABSOLUTELY special offers ONLY available from the newsletter. We will NOT spam you – we will NOT email you every day.
Signup for our Newsletter HERE
GPYB COACHING AND COUNSELING
You can make an appointment from ANYWHERE in the world!
Counseling / Coaching is done via Zoom Video Call. The client list is kept SMALL and closes – sometimes for months or years. If you want to become a new client, please make a consultation appointment.
To book a coaching or counseling session with GPYB go HERE
To book a divorce coaching consultation go HERE
Some insurance companies pay for GPYB Coaching and Counseling. We do not submit to insurance but will provide an invoice with the relevant ICD-9 codes for you to submit.
FOR PROFESSIONALS
If you want to become a GPYB group facilitator with a referral from GPYB, please contact us.
If you are interested in a GPYB in-service to teach you or your staff how to be a GPYB coach or counselor, please contact us. We will send referrals to your practice.
SOCIAL MEDIA
We LOVE interacting with our readers and listeners via social media. That is why we have 3 FB groups, several FB pages, 3 Twitter accounts, 2 Instagram accounts, and a Pinterest account
If you follow us on Twitter and Instagram, we will follow back.
If you have a commercial or business FB page, like us and we will like you back.
If you have a meme you would like to see on Pinterest, send it to us. If you have a Pinterest page, and follow us, we will follow back.
Below is our information for all these accounts, to ask for a follow or like or send a meme, write to admin@gettingpastyourbreakup.com and put “Social Media follow” in the subject line.
FACEBOOK GROUPS and PAGES
Groups
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- The GPYB Facebook group is HERE
- The GPYB Funnies Group is HERE
- The Navigating the Systems with the Personality Disordered Group is HERE
- The moderators of the groups are Tiffney McKnight, Brian Wheeler, Dave Turchetta and Shannon Rees. Their service to the groups is invaluable. Please refer to the bottom of the GPYB FB Group Guidelines about their roles.
PAGES
Please LIKE all of the GPYB FB PAGES. Also, you will be apprised of special discounts on materials and offerings.
The Workbook is NOT available on Amazon so the reviews on FB are VITAL to its success. PLEASE like and review that on Facebook. THANK YOU!
PLAYLISTS
- All the Getting Past Your Breakup videos HERE
- The Top 10 Most Popular GPYB Videos HERE
- GPYP Codependency videos HERE
- Grief and Loss HERE
- Personality Disorders HERE
- Mean Lady Talking Podcast HERE
- Dating HERE
- Relationship Court HERE
- The Watts Family Murders HERE
PLEASE REMEMBER TO “LIKE” THE VIDEOS!
PINTEREST
Our Facebook group doesn’t allow memes. We do however, have a Pinterest page. If you want to send us a pin, we will pin it. If you have a Pinterest account, we will follow you if you follow us. Email us HERE and let us know you are a Pinterest follower and either send us the meme to pin or tell us your Pinterest name and we will follow you after you follow us. See you on Pinterest!
See our Pinterest Board HERE
Other Authors GPYB Recommends
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STOP DV PROGRAM
The GPYB Stop DV Program is a VERY important of the GPYB program.
To find out how you can help – go HERE
We use a percentage of our royalties twice a year to send books to Domestic Violence shelters. We also have a matching book program.
Your donations of books to shelters help but your reviews do as well. Please keep spreading the word about the GPYB program. Thank you.
PERSONAL GRIEF JOURNEY BLOG: ROPE BURNS
My journey through the love of my life’s illness and death. Click Rope Burns
HISTORY OF GPYB/GPYB
Many people come here confused about “What is GPYP? ” “What is GPYB?” “Why two different names?”
The ORIGINAL program in the 1990s was Getting Past Your Past. When I came back to teach it in NY, I found that not only had someone published a book of the same name but the author had the same name (and spelling) as me (how weird is that?)
I don’t know if she looked for a title and google’d her name or something and found a reference to me – no idea – but before I discovered her book, I had already started teaching Getting Past Your Past in NYC and had started a Getting Past Your Past blog (on wordpress dot com) You can see old copies of the GPYP blog and website on the Wayback Machine.
The “other” Susan Elliott, author of the “other” GPYP is a Christian author and GPYB is secu lar (but one of the Getting Past Your Breakup reviews dinged the book because there was too much “Jesus as your husband” in it. Anyone who has read GPYB knows there are exactly zero references to Jesus, let alone Him being your husband… another time I was dinged for “being a Christian writer who did not mention Jesus once in the book or exhort anyone to pray….” )
So I’ve been dinged by people confusing her book with mine and visa versa. So I try to differentiate ourselves from her as it has caused issues, but there are still people who look for me via Getting Past Your Past.
To complicate things, a very competent author and creator of EMDR, Francine Shapiro, published a book in 2013 titled Getting Past Your Past. I am a HUGE proponent of EMDR and am a fan of Francine Shapiro, so I want to further distinguish GPYB from GPYP.
When I discovered the “other” Susan Elliott, I changed the program name to Getting Past Your Breakup BUT we use Getting Past Your Past when we are encompassing ALL the materials (Getting Past Your Breakup, Getting Back Out There AND material that was part of the original Getting Past Your Past program).
While I apologize for any confusion with the other Susan Elliott or Francine Shapiro, I was the first person to use the phrase, Getting Past Your Past and have tried to be gracious in distinguishing myself from them.
ABBREVIATIONS AND SAYINGS
GPYB Getting Past Your Breakup Program and Book (see above)
GBOT Getting Back Out There Book (see above)
GPYP Getting Past Your Past Program and Book (see above)
NC No Contact
BH Bananahead
DBOM Dawn Breaks Over Marblehead
Funnies Group (see above) PD Group (see above)
MLT Mean Lady Talking (podcast)
MLTP Mean Lady Talking Podcast
“It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter” – GPYB mantra – original to the GPYB program – originated in the post no longer available on the blog – but IS available in THIS video
“Does It Hurt When You Do That? Don’t DO THAT!!!” Joke from GPYB book on breaking NC.
Reject the Rejecter (also spelled Rejector) -(see below) GPYB mantra – original to the GPYB program – originated in the post no longer available on the blog – but IS available in THIS video and will be the NEXT book!
Wants To Be With Me originated in the post no longer available on the blog – but IS available in THIS video
The 3 a.m. person: GBOT concept – originally described in the GBOT book and the MLT podcasts
Grief As The Healing Feeling – title of Chapter in GPYB book – originated with John Bradshaw
“To find the right person, be the right person” ~ GPYB concept originated (we believe) with Earnie Larsen in his book Stage II Relationships
If nothing changes, nothing changes – tends to be a 12 step slogan – original source unknown (sometimes attributed to Earnie Larsen)
The “3 time rule” for setting boundaries – believed to have originated with Melody Beattie
You cannot take care of someone’s feelings and set a boundary at the same time – Melody Beattie
Everyone feels their pain at 100 percent. ~ John James (Grief Recovery Institute)
