Getting Past Your Breakup

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Publisher’s Weekly

The VOICE of Publishing!


Getting Back Out There follows Elliott’s 2009 acclaimed debutGetting Past Your Breakup

She offers readers humble and perceptive advice for recovering from

heartbreak and reentering the dating world…

Elliott’s wisdom—well reasoned, unassuming, and based  on experience—

is not to be missed.”

Marie Claire

In true Beyonce fashion,

Susan J Elliott helps you

through your break-up

reminding you

that you’re the best thing

he never had.


[GPYB] assists not only

in dealing with the shock of a relationship ending,

but also

how to move past the breakup to become a

stronger, better person 

because of it.

Huffington Post

Elliott is supremely

practical and behavioral

in her  approach

to how to avoid

getting sucked back into

a dysfunctional relationship.

For more media reviews and to see our incredible –

(over 600 – 4 and 5 star) reviews

from our readers

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Featured Books

Getting Past Your Breakup

Getting Past Your Past: The Definitive Workbook

GPYP Power! Affirmations Booklet

Getting Back Out There


Susan J. Elliott, J.D.,M.Ed. is the creator of the Getting Past Your Breakup Program, where many classic breakup techniques originated, which includes courses, groups, seminars and workshops, the voice of the Mean Lady Talking Podcast, a successful media commentator, a successful attorney and the author of the GPYB books.

Life Experience: As a child, she was given up to the foster care system and at the age of 8 was adopted into an abusive, alcoholic home. Later in life, her world came crashing down when her very toxic marriage ended and she was forced to face her unresolved losses, low self-esteem, raging codependency and overwhelming attachment and abandonment issues. She had PTSD from being in abusive relationships for so long. She was treated for trauma and clinical depression, which led her to seek help from a variety of sources, heal her wounds, build a new life as a single, working mother, become a therapist and an attorney, and find real love with the most wonderful man.

Professional Experience:
She has dedicated the past 25 years to writing, teaching, recording, and speaking, as well as consulting on media projects to help others find their way from horrific heartbreak to a fabulous new life.

Though many others hold themselves out as “breakup experts,” she is one of the few who has true bonafides: the personal experience, the education, the publications.

The GPYB program was the first to put many concepts together as THE plan for healing a broken heart. Elliott has done many speaking engagements, has had much media exposure as well as over 25 years of field experience with women, men, couples and families. Her personal experience, professional experience and education is unparalleled. She is THE relationship and breakup expert.

Her groundbreaking work on the interplay between unresolved grief and difficulty ending relationships has helped thousands of people let go of a bad situation and find their way to happiness after heartache. She is credited with identifying “grief recycling” during breakup grief, popularizing the concept of “no contact,” and developing a wide range of substantive exercises (available in the books and the workbook) to heal the past, build a healthy present and plan for a happy future.

Though GPYB is designed to help anyone going through a breakup, she specializes in working with people with attachment disorders, former partners of the personality disordered and domestic violence victims.

Media Experience:Elliott is a media commentator who has appeared on national and local (NYC) television, local, national and international radio, and has been featured in numerous publications. She has consulted on numerous media projects and has consulted with other authors, mental health and legal professionals.

Education: She holds a Bachelor of Arts in English from Mount Holyoke College where she graduated with High Honors, magna cum laude, and Phi Beta Kappa; a Master of Education in Counseling Psychology from Cambridge College; and a Juris Doctor from the University of California, Berkeley. She is licensed to practice law in the state and federal courts of New York and Texas, but does divorce coaching in all 50 states and in Canada. She counsels people from around the world via Zoom video sessions though she keeps her client list small and it often closes, sometimes for years at a time.

Please email her HERE to inquire about the podcast, counseling, workshop offerings, boot camps, legal representation (either as an attorney or divorce coach), for an interview or speaking engagement.


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Unlike most self-help books and programs,
gender neutral, sexual orientation neutral, and
length of relationship neutral
so the message can be disseminated
to everyone who needs it.


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Women: Unavailable versus Playing a Game

Women: Unavailable versus Playing a Game

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Author, Attorney, Podcaster, Media Commentator, Motivational Speaker, and Creator of the World's Most Successful Breakup Program.  Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You...

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Getting Past Your Breakup and Getting Back Out There have over 600 5-star reviews on Amazon 


appears on many prestigious "Best Breakup Books of All Time" lists

including About.com, Marie Claire and Huffington Post. To see a partial list go HERE

Here is a sampling of GPYB's INCREDIBLE 5-star reviews

This book has been by my side since my boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. When reading this book I know that I am not going through it alone. Each chapter has no bullsh*t advise for the reader and is very grounding. The author, Susan J. Elliott, is 100% honest in how you can create a better life for yourself without your ex. She explains the phases of grief, the importance of No Contact (NC),.....


Erica S.

Buy this book. Buy it because you're sick and tired of feeling this way. Buy it because you know something has to change, and you sense that this all goes deeper than you realize, but the pain is so heavy that you don't even know where to start. Buy it because you appreciate the accessibility of an author who has spent her entire life building the wealth of knowledge and wisdom that is written in these pages - she learned this all herself ...


This is a great book for anyone going through a significant breakup. While the tagline to the title is a bit overly optimistic – “How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You” – the actual title of the book, “Getting Past Your Breakup,” is a true description of the great compassion and advice offered in this book…..


I don’t know where I heard about this book – the first days during the collapse of my marriage are all a blur. But I’m so thankful that, wherever I learned of Susan Elliott from, I gave her book a chance. Admittedly there were parts I wanted to ignore at first – no contact with someone you’ve loved and shared a life with for nearly 20 years seems impossible – but


I bought this book after my boyfriend of seven years suddenly dumped me out of nowhere and I was devastated. I am so glad I found this book and Susan’s companion blog, YouTube videos, and Facebook support group site to help me get past my breakup. This book contains so many useful tools to enable emotional healing, and provides specific examples of common setbacks such as recycling,…..


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