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Courage, Hope and Deciding to Change

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even … Continue reading

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Grief vs. Self-Pity

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 There is a difference between self-pity and grief.¬† It’s just not always easy to figure it out when you’re in the throes of emotion. Last year someone asked me to describe the … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 3

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 How professionals can help when a co-parent is out of control It is very important for the non-PD to not argue with the PD about anything. It is hard, in the face … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 2

by Susan J. Elliott, JD, M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person It is very easy for the non-PD to be drawn¬†into emotionally-charged emails with the PD. PD’s are master manipulators and … Continue reading

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The Blame Game: Help Yourself Out Of It

“Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse (ACOA/codependency expert) Needing someone to blame whenever something goes wrong is a hallmark of a dysfunctional … Continue reading

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Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System” Part 1

Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System”, Part 1 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 This is Part One of a Three Part Series As an attorney, … Continue reading

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Like Water: Why We Attract Who We Attract

The “water seeks its own level” posts were requested. Here are two of them: by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Look to your mate choices to better understand yourself Carl Jung said that everything that irritates us about others can … Continue reading

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Water Seeks Its Own Level

“It is a spiritual principal that we will continue to encounter others who will embody the opportunity for us to learn our most pressing lesson. When we learn to overcome the problem in ourselves, our ‘teachers’ fade away.” – Robin … Continue reading

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5 Things You Must Do To Change the Quality of Relationships

It is possible to bridge the gap between horrible relationships and happiness by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 There is societal pressure to be partnered. When you are not, you often feel as if the entire world is … Continue reading

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Breaking Up and Making “The Turn”

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. … Continue reading

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Annual Responsibility to the World Community Post

Thou shalt not be a victim. Thou shalt not be a perpetrator. Above all, thou shalt not be a bystander. -Sign in the Holocaust Museum, Washington DC I’ve posted this every January for the past 5 years. It’s a rather … Continue reading

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Going Downhill. Fast.

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Requested Repost. I was raised in the Bronx where, last I checked, skiing was not a street game. So I actually reached adulthood without ever having skiied or even knowing the first thing about … Continue reading

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Gratitude, Support Groups & Getting Better

John F. Kennedy once said that as we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. M. Scott Peck said that love is an action. Both love … Continue reading

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Torch Song Trilogy

A perennial favorite on the blog and requested repost: I saw this movie in the theater when it came out and I was pretty tortured and depressed at the time. I had just ended my marriage and was wrestling with … Continue reading

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A New Year…a New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to … Continue reading

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