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Moving On, Letting Go & Finding “The One”

When We Don’t Share Values and Morals, It’s the Wrong Relationship by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Several years ago I worked with a guy who was sweet, soft-spoken exceedingly polite and just all-around wonderful. He became engaged and gave his … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 3

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 How professionals can help when a co-parent is out of control It is very important for the non-PD to not argue with the PD about anything. It is hard, in the face … Continue reading

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The Personality Disordered Co-Parent and “The System” Part 2

by Susan J. Elliott, JD, M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person It is very easy for the non-PD to be drawn into emotionally-charged emails with the PD. PD’s are master manipulators and … Continue reading

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Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System” Part 1

Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System”, Part 1 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 This is Part One of a Three Part Series As an attorney, … Continue reading

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Like Water: Why We Attract Who We Attract

The “water seeks its own level” posts were requested. Here are two of them: by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Look to your mate choices to better understand yourself Carl Jung said that everything that irritates us about others can … Continue reading

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5 Things You Must Do To Change the Quality of Relationships

It is possible to bridge the gap between horrible relationships and happiness by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 There is societal pressure to be partnered. When you are not, you often feel as if the entire world is … Continue reading

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Breaking Up and Making “The Turn”

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. … Continue reading

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6 Ways to Become the Best Version of Yourself

Befriend people who have what you want, and do what they do. If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere. ~ Francois de la Rochefoucauld by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. It is … Continue reading

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Resolving Our Anger At Narcissists

Ten Steps to Feeling Okay Again by Susan J. Elliott, J.D. , M.Ed.  Copyright 2014 I receive a lot of email and can’t answer them personally so I ask that those who write give me permission to publish the email … Continue reading

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Replaced by the Ex in a Very Public Way?

Time to #GetOverIt! by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 All Right Reserved This may not be copied or duplicated without the express permission of the author One of the most common questions I receive every single month since … Continue reading

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Breakups and Our Unresolved Losses

It’s important to recognize and honor all our losses and heal through grief. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright @2008-2017 When I was younger, I would break up with someone and be okay for the first day. Then suddenly, … Continue reading

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Getting Honest with Yourself 101

The Way to a Healthy Life is Suppressing the Almighty Self Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. I once wrote a post here called Being Your Own Therapist and it puts forth the proposition that you need others to check you … Continue reading

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Was Your Relationship Good for You?

10 Questions to Answer Before You Begin Again by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2017 All Rights Reserved Before you even think about dating or moving onto another relationship, you have to take inventory about your last relationship and figure out … Continue reading

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The Pathological Narcissist

A person void of empathy, love or enjoyment is not someone to love by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 Kernberg and Kohut are known as the “fathers” of narcissism.  As I am hard at work on my new book … Continue reading

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Divorcing and Co-parenting with the Sociopath

5 ways to protect yourself when divorcing a sociopath by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 As I write about in my 3-part series on Co-Parenting with the Personality Disordered, going through a divorce and/or child custody/support/visitation with a personality disordered person … Continue reading

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