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When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You

When the Person You Love Doesn’t Love You It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. It’s hard but it happens. And it hurts. You love someone who may have loved you once … Continue reading

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Building Your Own Life

Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid it will never begin. ~ Grace Hansen This post was written a year before the book was published and when Michael was well (I mention him at the bottom of the … Continue reading

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Holidays and me-all year round

I wrote about the first Christmas and New Year’s alone 10 months after my separation but not about much before that. After a VERY bumpy beginning, things had been going well that fall and I wasn’t prepared to be as … Continue reading

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On Rising Up From the Ashes

This was one of the first posts I wrote on the blog. I was reading the through the first few blog posts and thought this would be a good one to run. ¬†This is one that is partially in the … Continue reading

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Balance

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony. ~ Thomas Merton Balance is always the name of the game. It’s not enough to “feel your feelings,” you have to also do some work for … Continue reading

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Grief Ends. Bank on it. Believe in It.

Most grief ends. Know it. Bank on it. Believe in it. If you do your work, it ends. If you work through it, it ends. If you feel your feelings and allow grief to happen, it ends. When it is … Continue reading

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Grief versus Self-Pity

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 There is a difference between self-pity and grief.¬† It’s just not always easy to figure it out when you’re in the throes of emotion. Last year someone asked me to describe the … Continue reading

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9/26 TFTD ~ On Self Soothing

Someone asked me, in a comment, to explain what I meant by “self-soothing”. It’s really a combination of affirmations, positive self-talk and telling yourself that what you’re PERCEIVING is not necessarily how it is. My biggest obstacle was fear of … Continue reading

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12/17 TFTD – On Softening

“The wounds of the past have sacrificed the heart. The mind has cramped closed. The body has entrophied in hard-bellied distrust. But the feeling of loss, and being lost, eventually gets our attention and we see that no one can … Continue reading

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