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Torch Song Trilogy

A perennial favorite on the blog and requested repost: I saw this movie in the theater when it came out and I was pretty tortured and depressed at the time. I had just ended my marriage and was wrestling with … Continue reading

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A New Year…a New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Leaving the Abusive Relationship Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 All rights reserved Abuse┬ácan be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have … Continue reading

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Mail. We Get Mail on Wanting Them To KNow

Requested Repost. Reader Email. I’m always amazed at what posts my readers remember. They ask for articles I barely remember writing, but here it is. This post is a mashup of several previous posts. I talk about my ex in … Continue reading

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Requested Repost: Betrayal

Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts at the same time).

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Holidays and me-all year round

I wrote about the first Christmas and New Year’s alone 10 months after my separation but not about much before that. After a VERY bumpy beginning, things had been going well that fall and I wasn’t prepared to be as … Continue reading

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Splitting Post

Someone just mentioned splitting, I go into this in greater detail in the workbook and have some exercises to work on it, and I touch on it some in both books, but splitting makes it much harder to get over … Continue reading

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Public Aloneness

A reader wrote to me about going to new things alone when she had been part of a couple for so long. I wrote this a while ago and hope it helps: So many parts of uncoupling are scary and … Continue reading

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On Rising Up From the Ashes

This was one of the first posts I wrote on the blog. I was reading the through the first few blog posts and thought this would be a good one to run. ┬áThis is one that is partially in the … Continue reading

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Splitting

I know I just posted this, but had a requested repost from the Facebook page. I go into this in greater detail in the workbook and have some exercises to work on it, and I touch on it some in … Continue reading

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Forgiveness of Self and Others

Forgiveness of others starts after we do our grief work and our Relationship Inventory and our examination of the relationship and feel the spectrum of emotions. It does not start right away. Forgiveness of others is the end, rather than … Continue reading

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Another Splitting Post

I have written about 8-10 “splitting” posts. Here is one that was requested. I was in a long-term relationship that I’ve written about on here. We were in a 4 year relationship and it was a pretty nice relationship but … Continue reading

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Demand Your Keys Back

When I work with clients, I give them a lot of homework as they can all attest to. Sometimes they balk and sometimes they drag their feet or get busy or something came up. So when I give assignments I … Continue reading

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Clean Grief versus Hollow Grief

I wrote this post 3 weeks after Michael’s seizure so it really was “in the moment” type of posting. At the time I really struggled with keeping this blog going and maintaining my new-found position as the person in charge … Continue reading

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What Really Hurts?

How can we tell someone to stop hurting us if we’re not sure it hurts? How can we identify it as inappropriate if that’s all we’ve ever lived with? To us, it’s normal. How can we know what we want … Continue reading

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