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Putting Change, Real Change, Into Your Life

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Your ultimate goal in life is to become your best self. Your immediate goal is to get on the path that will put you there. – David Viscott   A friend of mine said, yesterday, … Continue reading

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Courage, Hope and Deciding to Change

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even … Continue reading

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Grief vs. Self-Pity

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2018 There is a difference between self-pity and grief.  It’s just not always easy to figure it out when you’re in the throes of emotion. Last year someone asked me to describe the … Continue reading

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The Blame Game: Help Yourself Out Of It

“Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse (ACOA/codependency expert) Needing someone to blame whenever something goes wrong is a hallmark of a dysfunctional … Continue reading

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Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System” Part 1

Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System”, Part 1 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 This is Part One of a Three Part Series As an attorney, … Continue reading

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Water Seeks Its Own Level

“It is a spiritual principal that we will continue to encounter others who will embody the opportunity for us to learn our most pressing lesson. When we learn to overcome the problem in ourselves, our ‘teachers’ fade away.” – Robin … Continue reading

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Annual Responsibility to the World Community Post

Thou shalt not be a victim. Thou shalt not be a perpetrator. Above all, thou shalt not be a bystander. -Sign in the Holocaust Museum, Washington DC I’ve posted this every January for the past 5 years. It’s a rather … Continue reading

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Going Downhill. Fast.

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Requested Repost. I was raised in the Bronx where, last I checked, skiing was not a street game. So I actually reached adulthood without ever having skiied or even knowing the first thing about … Continue reading

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Torch Song Trilogy

A perennial favorite on the blog and requested repost: I saw this movie in the theater when it came out and I was pretty tortured and depressed at the time. I had just ended my marriage and was wrestling with … Continue reading

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A New Year…a New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to … Continue reading

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Questions from the Questions Post

I know we used to have Questions from the Questions Post and some of you may have found this on YouTube. I STILL will answer Questions on YouTube….just email me at gpyb.com@gmail.com  – and when I make videos, it will … Continue reading

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Social Media Detox

I “left” Facebook several months ago. I still have a page and the GPYB support group, but I rarely post.  When I access FB, I click on the FB Support group immediately when I go on and that’s about it. … Continue reading

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Switching gears….or not

The Space You Need Is The Space To Learn What You Need by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 – All Rights Reserved. When I was convinced that my cheating husband had used a snowstorm to stay 45 miles … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Leaving the Abusive Relationship Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have … Continue reading

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Is It Narcissism? Or Why Some People Can’t Love

8 Traits That Almost All Narcissists Have by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Every few years there seems to be a diagnosis that everyone is pinning on someone else.  The past few years it’s been narcissism. Since the main focus … Continue reading

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