Author Archives: Susan J. Elliott

Savoring 101

When I commuted to work whether just on a subway from the Upper West Side of Manhattan or the grueling, hellish commute from Orange County New York to Manhattan, I read a lot of magazines. I remember that one that … Continue reading

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Journey From Abuse

Bumping Up For Someone Who Couldn’t Find This. Usually in February, I do some kind of hat tip to my journey. It started in February. I forgot to do that this year (internet stalkers and all). So I’m going to … Continue reading

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Bumps in the Dating Road When Getting Back Out There

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Part 1: Readiness and rejection Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After The Big Breakup discusses the 5 R’s – Readiness, Rejection, Recycling, Rebounding and Retreating. They are commonly experienced bumps along the dating … Continue reading

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On-line Dating: Bathroom lady wall photo

Blog readers  might remember this gem: I did a dating video on YouTube when I was writing Getting Back Out There. To check out the sewage on various sites (I needed profiles to read the forums), I actually put profiles … Continue reading

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Beginning Anew

Your ultimate goal in life is to become your best self. Your immediate goal is to get on the path that will put you there. – David Viscott Today is Monday. Monday seems to be everyone’s “do over” day.  It’s … Continue reading

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Great Expectations and Narcissists

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. ~ Maya Angelo by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 All Rights Reserved Some of you may remember this post from the Mail. We Get Mail series. Last year I … Continue reading

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When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You

It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2018 Author, “Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You” (Da Capo 2009) … Continue reading

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You Are So Not Who I Thought You Were

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Rerun based on a post from the FB group. After my first few post-divorce breakups, I started to tell people that “anyone is capable of anything at any time.” It’s not that anyone will … Continue reading

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The Wha Wha Wha FFS WTF Meltdown

Note: there are several GPYB “Wha Wha Meltdown” posts. There is the Wha Wha Wha Working Too Hard Meltdown….the Wha Wha Wha Why Me Meltdown…etc….they all have the same theme….we’re working hard while the world is off having fun and … Continue reading

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Trust the Process

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Working through unresolved grief can only work to make you stronger. As Stephen Levine said, people who work through their grief are the lightest and happiest of beings. It shows in their life, in … Continue reading

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Mail. We Get Mail on Recovery Tools as Weapons

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. I received this letter in 2006 and reran it in 2013.  It’s time for another re-run. Please help me. I was involved with a guy with a severe drinking problem. We broke up and … Continue reading

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No Contact: Searching and the Rules of Disengagement

No contact is hard, but so important to healing by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Pining is the subjective and emotional component of urge to search for the lost object. ~ Colin Murray Parkes. Colin Murray Parkes was a grief … Continue reading

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Fear and Resilience

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D.M.Ed. Copyright 1999-2018 You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. … Continue reading

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Men As Stalking Victims, Part 2: 10 Things To Know For Safety’s Sake

Would Travis Alexander and/or Ryan Poston be alive today if everyone was duly informed about men as stalking victims? by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.   There is a fine line between serendipity and stalking. ~ David Coleman What Is Stalking … Continue reading

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On Revealing Yourself to Others

Sometimes you tell someone something, and sometimes you just keep your mouth shut. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. All the world is a stage, And all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and entrances; Each … Continue reading

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