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Closure Redux
For most of you who have read the book, you know that I talk about closure and "end of the grief process" in different ways. Because they are not the same. To describe the end of the grief process, I use the words "acceptance" or "integration" or "reorganization"...
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Opportunity is Crisis Played Correctly
by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Author: Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You (Hachette Book Group 2009)Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup...
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8 Traits Almost All Narcissists Have: Or Why Some People Can’t Love
8 Traits That Almost All Narcissists HaveEvery few years there seems to be a diagnosis that everyone is pinning on someone else. The past few years it’s been narcissism. Since the main focus of my practice is, and almost always has been, relationship breakups,...
read moreRespect Me or Get Out: Torch Song Trilogy
A perennial favorite on the blog and requested repost: I saw this movie in the theater when it came out and I was pretty tortured and depressed at the time. I had just ended my marriage and was wrestling with my relationship with my adoptive family. I remember...
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Is It Grief or Obsession? 7 Ways to Deal with Difficult Thoughts After a Breakup
by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Author: Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You (Hachette Book Group 2009)Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup...
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Grief is A Spiral: Recycle Happens
Backstory to this post: I am republishing this for someone in the Facebook group recycling on the ex's birthday, which - as you read down below - is very normal.I have been researching grief for 25 years. All of my academic theses, including my law thesis, are on...
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I’m Going To Stay Here And Torture You
Backstory to this post: Someone emailed the Mean Lady Talking podcast to say they heard me say "Take the V off your forehead" on a podcast. I didn't remember saying that recently, but it IS a saying of mine. It was said to me when I started this journey. I emailed...
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Transformation
Backstory to this post: The first time I posted this - the sad story of the A&W Root Beer lady and me....was over 10 years ago. It was about a month into Michael's illness and I was struggling to remain grateful as I saw my life and my love slipping away. I...
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Being the Identified Patient or Scapegoat
by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Author: Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You (Hachette Book Group 2009)Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup...
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Public Aloneness
by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Author: Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You (Hachette Book Group 2009)Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup...
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How To Prepare for a Healthy Relationship After a Big Breakup
by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Author: Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You (Hachette Book Group 2009)Getting Back Out There: Secrets to Successful Dating and Finding Real Love After the Big Breakup...
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10 Ways To Tell If You’re Being Gaslighted
Backstory to this post: This is one of the classic GPYB posts and I am reposting for a new FB group member who never heard the term. It's all about narcissistic abuse. I originally wrote this for Psychology Today. As I bring the GPYB website back on-line, I'm trying...
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