Susan J. Elliott

Publisher’s Weekly called Susan J. Elliott’s 2009 appearance on the publishing scene, an “acclaimed debut.” Her first book, GPYB, has enjoyed positive media and reader reviews and appears on several “Best Breakup Books” lists, including the Huffington Post, Marie Claire and Unlike most books that start strong and taper off, sales of GPYB remain solid each month. It has remained in the Amazon Top 10 books in the Divorce category for over four years. It is now available in paperback, electronic, and audio formats as well as four languages (English, French, Polish, Chinese (complex)), with more translations (Chinese (simplified), Vietnamese, Turkish, German, Czech and Slovak) in the works.

Elliott is an author, attorney, and grief counselor. She is the creator of workshops, seminars and boot camps designed to help people move on from loss, especially that of breakup, separation and divorce. She is recognized as an international breakup expert and is consistently sought as a media commentator, guest columnist and speaker. She has appeared on several international, national and local (New York City) television and radio shows. She has been quoted in many periodicals such as O!, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Elle, Chicago Tribune, New York Daily News, New York Post, Gannett Newspapers, Detroit Free Press, Irish Independent (Dublin) Marie Claire (U.S. and U.K.), Women’s World, and websites such as MSNBC, Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Salon, Psych Central, Faster Times, Glamour, Oprah,, Psychology Today, Psychology Daily News, Your Tango!,,, and Dating She has been invited to work as a consultant on media projects and asked to endorse books, products and websites.

Elliott is the developer of the Getting Past Your Past series of workshops and seminars. She is a media commentator (interviewed and quoted extensively on television, radio, print and internet), speaker, relationship coach, developer of Getting Past Your Breakup bootcamps (both live and on-line), and author of the Getting Past Your Past and Getting Past Your Breakup blogs.

She received her Bachelor of Arts degree from Mount Holyoke College where she graduated magna cum laude with High Honors and Phi Beta Kappa, her Master of Education in Counseling Psychology from Cambridge College and her Juris Doctorate from the University of California, Berkeley.

She lives in New York.

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6 Responses to Susan J. Elliott

  1. mrsvidivan says:

    I have been married for 18 years. We dated for 5 years before we married. Now my husband wants to end the relationship. I have moved into an apt closer to my job. We both work in the same office for the past 2 years. Now I am having difficulty functioning at work because I have to see him everyday. It started bcuz his ex called the house. He couldn’t make up his mind what he wanted to do. He later told me he didn’t know how to deal with the situation so he just shut me completely out. He doesn’t understand why we can’t be friends. He wants to continue to bring me gifts, talk to me at work as if nothing is going on between us. I don’t want to see him, talk to him, hear his voice. I want to move on. He initially said he wanted to work it out and now he is saying he doesn’t. We never tried to work it out. His excuse is it’s him not me. My boss wanted to get rid of him but I can’t afford to make it on what I get paid if he loses his job. My boss says he will fire him before he gets rid of me. I don’t know what to do. I am feeling all sorts of emotions. We have been separated 2 months. The other night is when he decided we could go no further. I don’t know how to balance all of this.

    • Susan J. Elliott says:

      Welcome to the blog. You will find a lot of support here. My suggestion is to copy this post to the Check-in Thread so you can introduce yourself to the group. you will get a lot of support here.

  2. mrsvidivan says:

    How do I copy into check in thread

  3. firstlovebpd31 says:

    Y I am in the first few chapters of this amazing book. Im in a muddle. Ive done the firsr rule No contact.
    Its taken me at least two months to do this. Ive changed my number and.deleted my ex’s number and his family and friends. This book is really helping as on top of it.being my first love we were together for seven years and having a.child together. So now im having to start legal action. I want to be civil but its extremely hard as my ex all of a sudden wants his daughter for over night visits, but he wants to take her to host houses. I dont feel comfortable about it as i barely see him or know.if. his mentally capiable to independantly care for.our daughter. Im also not.on good.terms with his family especially the mother so i can go through her. But im hoping i can find some stradigies in this book but im also seeking legal aid. I dont know if its unfair but im not letting my ex take our daughter till we have signed.some legal documentation.
    Im not sure if anyone has any advice or ideas but id love to hear it.

    • Susan J. Elliott says:

      Without legal documentation he can do what he wants, as he’s her father. You need to get to a lawyer right away. What state are you in? Many states have family law offices in the courthouse where you can go get legal advice. In the meantime, I’d tell him that unless he has a place where she can go (that is HIS) no overnight visitations. You are under no obligation to let him drag her around to different houses. If you doubt his mental capacity, get supervised visitation and get it right away.

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