Category Archives: relationship

Building Your Own Life

Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid it will never begin. ~ Grace Hansen This post was written a year before the book was published and when Michael was well (I mention him at the bottom of the … Continue reading

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Going Downhill. Fast.

I was raised in the Bronx where, last I checked, skiing was not a street game. So I actually reached adulthood without ever having skiied or even knowing the first thing about it. When I was in my late 20s … Continue reading

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Healthy Dating after the Big Breakup

Requested repost: I hope that you venture forth only after you’ve done your grief work and learned to spend some time with yourself and know more about yourself than you did before your last relationship. Before you go back out … Continue reading

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Balance

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony. ~ Thomas Merton Balance is always the name of the game. It’s not enough to “feel your feelings,” you have to also do some work for … Continue reading

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Blame, forgiveness, compromise and working it out

I wrote this last year on blame and some of the comments this week brings it back around… “Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ … Continue reading

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Grief Ends. Bank on it. Believe in It.

Most grief ends. Know it. Bank on it. Believe in it. If you do your work, it ends. If you work through it, it ends. If you feel your feelings and allow grief to happen, it ends. When it is … Continue reading

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