Category Archives: recovery

Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have to be all 5. … Continue reading

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My Relationship Ended. Now What?

How to face your loss, feel your feelings, and come out stronger than ever by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Time does not heal all wounds. If it did, no one would have unresolved loss or be bitter years after a breakup.  … Continue reading

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When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You

When the Person You Love Doesn’t Love You It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. It’s hard but it happens. And it hurts. You love someone who may have loved you once … Continue reading

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Building Your Own Life

Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid it will never begin. ~ Grace Hansen This post was written a year before the book was published and when Michael was well (I mention him at the bottom of the … Continue reading

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On Dancing Out of Control

“When she is starved, a woman will take any substitutes offered, including those that, like placebos, do absolutely nothing for her, as well as destructive and life-threatening ones that hideously waste her time and talents or expose her life to … Continue reading

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On Rising Up From the Ashes

This was one of the first posts I wrote on the blog. I was reading the through the first few blog posts and thought this would be a good one to run.  This is one that is partially in the … Continue reading

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Balance

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony. ~ Thomas Merton Balance is always the name of the game. It’s not enough to “feel your feelings,” you have to also do some work for … Continue reading

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Being the Identified Patient II

I wrote this post a long time ago and so many of my readers seem to be struggling with this I wanted to rerun it. Dance everyone! If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well … Continue reading

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Blame, forgiveness, compromise and working it out

I wrote this last year on blame and some of the comments this week brings it back around… “Dad would start blaming, as if it were important to establish once and for all who was responsible for every peccadillo.” ~ … Continue reading

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Grief Ends. Bank on it. Believe in It.

Most grief ends. Know it. Bank on it. Believe in it. If you do your work, it ends. If you work through it, it ends. If you feel your feelings and allow grief to happen, it ends. When it is … Continue reading

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2/13 TFTD ~ On Keeping a Positive Attitude

Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives. – William James When our life has been unhappy or chaotic, it is very easy to become negative and jaded. It is … Continue reading

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