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Replaced by the Ex in a Very Public Way?

Time to #GetOverIt! by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 All Right Reserved This may not be copied or duplicated without the express permission of the author One of the most common questions I receive every single month since … Continue reading

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Breakups and Our Unresolved Losses

It’s important to recognize and honor all our losses and heal through grief. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright @2008-2017 When I was younger, I would break up with someone and be okay for the first day. Then suddenly, … Continue reading

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Getting Honest with Yourself 101

The Way to a Healthy Life is Suppressing the Almighty Self Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. I once wrote a post here called Being Your Own Therapist and it puts forth the proposition that you need others to check you … Continue reading

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Was Your Relationship Good for You?

10 Questions to Answer Before You Begin Again by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2017 All Rights Reserved Before you even think about dating or moving onto another relationship, you have to take inventory about your last relationship and figure out … Continue reading

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The Pathological Narcissist

A person void of empathy, love or enjoyment is not someone to love by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 Kernberg and Kohut are known as the “fathers” of narcissism.  As I am hard at work on my new book … Continue reading

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Divorcing and Co-parenting with the Sociopath

5 ways to protect yourself when divorcing a sociopath by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 As I write about in my 3-part series on Co-Parenting with the Personality Disordered, going through a divorce and/or child custody/support/visitation with a personality disordered person … Continue reading

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Leaving the Abusive Relationship

Part 2 of 4: I had no self-esteem by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 When enormous grief hit me a week or so after I threw out my abusive husband, the only thing I wanted was to put the relationship … Continue reading

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Splitting: The Mental Habit That Keeps You from Getting over a Breakup

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 Five things to know about splitting and how to stop it. Splitting makes it much harder to get over a breakup, so it’s important to understand what it is. Here are 5 … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Leaving the Abusive Relationship Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have … Continue reading

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Getting Out of the Abusive Relationship

Getting Out of the Abusive Relationship by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.   @susanjae It IS possible to be happy, healthy and find a loving partner after abuse NOTE:  This entry covers all kinds of abusive relationships but before reading this for … Continue reading

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Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System” Part 1

Personality Disordered Co-Parents and “The System”, Part 1 Ways professionals can assist those who must co-parent with a sick person by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2017 This is Part One of a Three Part Series As an attorney, … Continue reading

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Is It Narcissism? Or Why Some People Can’t Love

8 Traits That Almost All Narcissists Have by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Every few years there seems to be a diagnosis that everyone is pinning on someone else.  The past few years it’s been narcissism. Since the main focus … Continue reading

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10 Ways To Tell If You’re Being Gaslighted

10 Ways to Tell if You’re Being Gaslighted by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Gaslighting is psychological abuse and does not belong in a relationship. The term “gaslighting” comes from a film (photo to the left is from the second … Continue reading

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Give Me Back My Keys!

It’s time to break out of the self-constructed prison of the past. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2017 When I work with clients, I give them a lot of homework. Sometimes they balk and sometimes they drag their … Continue reading

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5 Things You Must Do To Change the Quality of Relationships

It is possible to bridge the gap between horrible relationships and happiness by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 There is societal pressure to be partnered. When you are not, you often feel as if the entire world is … Continue reading

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