Category Archives: breakup

Karma: Not Always the Bitch We Want It To Be

Many of you would like the ex to “get theirs” or at least not seem so irritatingly happy or non-plussed. First, this is a normal and natural emotion but don’t dwell there. Second, they will get theirs only you don’t … Continue reading

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Requested Repost: Betrayal

Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts at the same time).

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Forgiveness of Self and Others

Forgiveness of others starts after we do our grief work and our Relationship Inventory and our examination of the relationship and feel the spectrum of emotions. It does not start right away. Forgiveness of others is the end, rather than … Continue reading

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May NC Chips

It has been a long time since we did NC Chips and there is a lot about NC in the recent threads so I think it’s time for one. For those of you who are new, this post explains the … Continue reading

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A New Year, A New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post. I will start a new Check-in Thread on January 1. We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. … Continue reading

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Transformation Continued

Courage is reclaiming your life after a devastating event robs you of your confidence and self-esteem. It is facing tomorrow with a firm resolve to reach deep within yourself to find another strength, another talent…It is taking yourself to another … Continue reading

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Heat Meet Kitchen

Thank you for the request in comments for this rerun. I had no memory of it at all.  I’m glad it helped before and hope it helps again. <hr> “If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.” … Continue reading

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I Matter. Yes, I Do.

To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves–there lies the great, singular power of self-respect. -Joan Didion Whenever I talk about boundaries, I warn people about how others will “up the ante” when we … Continue reading

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Addicted to Drama with music and everything

I been starin’ at your photograph Wondering where you’re at today And I’ve been hanging by the telephone Hopin’ that you’d come home and stay You told me you needed More walks, more talks More feelin’ close to me I … Continue reading

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Life Isn’t Fair (so you need to be fair to you)

When I opened “The Road Less Travelled” by M. Scott Peck back in 88 or so the first words are “Life is difficult.” and I flung it across the room and yelled, “No KIDDING!” That was NOT what I wanted … Continue reading

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Going Downhill. Fast.

I was raised in the Bronx where, last I checked, skiing was not a street game. So I actually reached adulthood without ever having skiied or even knowing the first thing about it. When I was in my late 20s … Continue reading

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Healthy Dating after the Big Breakup

Requested repost: I hope that you venture forth only after you’ve done your grief work and learned to spend some time with yourself and know more about yourself than you did before your last relationship. Before you go back out … Continue reading

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Transformation

I wrote this post 2 years ago and I wanted to post it again for all the new people here. I received an email a few days ago that said (in part), “I read all the fantastic progress of others … Continue reading

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D-Bom Moments

In the last year of my marriage, I went on a business trip to San Diego. Now I had never been anywhere special prior to this trip. I remember getting off the plane and there was a scent to southern … Continue reading

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