Category Archives: breakup

Replaced by the Ex in a Very Public Way?

Time to #GetOverIt! by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 All Right Reserved This may not be copied or duplicated without the express permission of the author One of the most common questions I receive every single month since … Continue reading

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Breakups and Our Unresolved Losses

It’s important to recognize and honor all our losses and heal through grief. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright @2008-2017 When I was younger, I would break up with someone and be okay for the first day. Then suddenly, … Continue reading

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Was Your Relationship Good for You?

10 Questions to Answer Before You Begin Again by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2006-2017 All Rights Reserved Before you even think about dating or moving onto another relationship, you have to take inventory about your last relationship and figure out … Continue reading

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Leaving the Abusive Relationship

Part 2 of 4: I had no self-esteem by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 When enormous grief hit me a week or so after I threw out my abusive husband, the only thing I wanted was to put the relationship … Continue reading

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Splitting: The Mental Habit That Keeps You from Getting over a Breakup

by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 Five things to know about splitting and how to stop it. Splitting makes it much harder to get over a breakup, so it’s important to understand what it is. Here are 5 … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Leaving the Abusive Relationship Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have … Continue reading

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When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You

When the Person You Love Doesn’t Love You It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter, It Doesn’t Matter by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. It’s hard but it happens. And it hurts. You love someone who may have loved you once … Continue reading

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Karma: Not Always the Bitch We Want It To Be

Many of you would like the ex to “get theirs” or at least not seem so irritatingly happy or non-plussed. First, this is a normal and natural emotion but don’t dwell there. Second, they will get theirs only you don’t … Continue reading

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In the Midst of Winter…

Love the moment. Flowers grow out of dark moments. Therefore, each moment is vital. It affects the whole. Life is a succession of such moments and to live each, is to succeed. – Corita Kent When I first moved into … Continue reading

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Requested Repost: Betrayal

Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts at the same time).

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Holidays and me-all year round

I wrote about the first Christmas and New Year’s alone 10 months after my separation but not about much before that. After a VERY bumpy beginning, things had been going well that fall and I wasn’t prepared to be as … Continue reading

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Forgiveness of Self and Others

Forgiveness of others starts after we do our grief work and our Relationship Inventory and our examination of the relationship and feel the spectrum of emotions. It does not start right away. Forgiveness of others is the end, rather than … Continue reading

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May NC Chips

It has been a long time since we did NC Chips and there is a lot about NC in the recent threads so I think it’s time for one. For those of you who are new, this post explains the … Continue reading

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Water Seeks Its Own Level

“It is a spiritual principal that we will continue to encounter others who will embody the opportunity for us to learn our most pressing lesson. When we learn to overcome the problem in ourselves, our ‘teachers’ fade away.” – Robin … Continue reading

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A New Year, A New You

The annual GPYB New Year’s Post. I will start a new Check-in Thread on January 1. We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. … Continue reading

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