Category Archives: abuse

Switching gears….or not

The Space You Need Is The Space To Learn What You Need by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 – All Rights Reserved. When I was convinced that my cheating husband had used a snowstorm to stay 45 miles … Continue reading

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The Pathological Narcissist

A person void of empathy, love or enjoyment is not someone to love by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2018 Kernberg and Kohut are known as the “fathers” of narcissism.  As I am hard at work on my new book … Continue reading

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Divorcing and Co-parenting with the Sociopath

5 ways to protect yourself when divorcing a sociopath by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 As I write about in my 3-part series on Co-Parenting with the Personality Disordered, going through a divorce and/or child custody/support/visitation with a personality disordered person … Continue reading

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Leaving the Abusive Relationship

Part 2 of 4: I had no self-esteem by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2017 When enormous grief hit me a week or so after I threw out my abusive husband, the only thing I wanted was to put the relationship … Continue reading

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Leaving The Abusive Relationship

Leaving the Abusive Relationship Part 1 of 4: I Didn’t Know That I Didn’t Know By Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2008-2017 All rights reserved Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, verbal and sexual. It can be but doesn’t have … Continue reading

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Getting Out of the Abusive Relationship

Getting Out of the Abusive Relationship by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed.   @susanjae It IS possible to be happy, healthy and find a loving partner after abuse NOTE:  This entry covers all kinds of abusive relationships but before reading this for … Continue reading

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Is It Narcissism? Or Why Some People Can’t Love

8 Traits That Almost All Narcissists Have by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Every few years there seems to be a diagnosis that everyone is pinning on someone else.  The past few years it’s been narcissism. Since the main focus … Continue reading

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10 Ways To Tell If You’re Being Gaslighted

10 Ways to Tell if You’re Being Gaslighted by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Gaslighting is psychological abuse and does not belong in a relationship. The term “gaslighting” comes from a film (photo to the left is from the second … Continue reading

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Give Me Back My Keys!

It’s time to break out of the self-constructed prison of the past. by Susan J. Elliott, J.D., M.Ed. Copyright 2007-2017 When I work with clients, I give them a lot of homework. Sometimes they balk and sometimes they drag their … Continue reading

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Holidays and Happiness

“If we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.” – Edith Wharton The holidays tend to push someone else’s idea of happiness upon us. We are told this is the “most wonderful time of the … Continue reading

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