Author Archives: Susan J. Elliott

12/2 Check in and Questions

I am going to be doing some Questions Post videos this week so feel free to use the check in to ask questions. Just please put QUESTIONS FOR THE QUESTIONS POST in the beginning or end of your check in. … Continue reading

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Catfished: How To Not Be On The End of the OnLine Relationship

Catfished Part One: When You Might Be The End of the Line On-Line: Catfished Part Two: How Not To Be on The End of the Line On-Line

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11/3 Check in Post

It’s NOVEMBER!!! How is everyone doing?

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New Questions Post!

I’m starting a new Questions post. If your question was not answered in the last one, feel free to repost here or you can ask another. I just want to put a new one so everyone can find it.

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Splitting Post

Someone just mentioned splitting, I go into this in greater detail in the workbook and have some exercises to work on it, and I touch on it some in both books, but splitting makes it much harder to get over … Continue reading

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Gaslighting and Psychological Projection

Here is the article. Video to follow. If you have any questions, ask in comments and I’ll include response in the video. 10 Ways To Tell If You’re Being Gaslighted Psychological Projection or Rubber/Glue Syndrome Two Videos on this (more … Continue reading

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10/15 Check in

How is everyone doing? The last checkin got pushed down so I’m starting a new one.

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What subjects, in the relationship space, do you think needs more articles or books?

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CoParenting with the Personality Disordered

I did a series of articles for Psychology Today on this topic and am now making a series of videos on the subject. If you have questions/comments/suggestions, please leave in comments. This is the first in the series about unskilled … Continue reading

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New Questions Post

I want to give everyone an opportunity to ask new questions. Though there were 51 comments to the last one, there were very few questions. It seems as if a lot of discussion was generated and that was the reason … Continue reading

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The Draw of Social Media (and why you need to resist it)

Are your insides churning? Are you tracking every movement he or she makes? Are you interpreting everything he or she does and trying to figure out which things are really secret messages to you? Are you putting nonsense statuses up … Continue reading

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October NC CHIPS!!!!!!

We skipped September because the chips came later in August, but now we have a few new people struggling with NC, so please share trials, tribulations, successes, how you did it and what you’re doing to celebrate. How it works … Continue reading

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9/17 Check In Thread

How is everyone doing? If you posted at the end of the last check in, feel free to copy it to this one. Unlike many other places, we are okay if you need support and have to re-post and never … Continue reading

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Unconditional Love

This article includes the idea that unconditional love MEANS under any condition that life throws at you, not under any condition of how you are treated. I’ve referred to it in a few different comments lately, but please read and comment … Continue reading

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I wrote this article on narcissists for Psychology Today and am following up with one on sociopaths.  If you have questions or comments, let me know and I’ll try to address them in the article.  I’m also writing a section … Continue reading

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