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10 Ways To Tell If You’re Being Gaslighted

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10/15 Check in

Green Check MarkHow is everyone doing? The last checkin got pushed down so I’m starting a new one.

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I have reintroducted a capthca to registration forms because I keep getting tons of bogus registrations each night. If, for some reason, you have trouble leaving a comment or registering, pls email me at gpyb dot come at gmail dot com thanks


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What subjects, in the relationship space, do you think needs more articles or books?

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New Videos

I’ve been responding to the Questions post in videos. Check out the GPYP YouTube channel – more soon. And I’ll leave the post open. Feel free to add Questions to it HERE.

If you don’t think I answered your question completely or have questions, ask here or on YouTube. I try to answer YouTube comments as they come in.

Getting Past Your Past You Tube Channel

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You’re A Liar

I was minding my own business and making GPYB videos the past few days (I have some more that I haven’t posted yet) when I kept getting sidetracked in my own head. So now I’m making a series of videos of being a victim and then being called a liar.

I mentioned something last night on Twitter and someone called me a liar. It’s not the first time and I find it really reprehensible that you call someone a liar when they are sharing their personal truth.

Intro: Staying Silent About Abuse

Staying Silent About Abuse and Being Called A Liar

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CoParenting with the Personality Disordered

I did a series of articles for Psychology Today on this topic and am now making a series of videos on the subject. If you have questions/comments/suggestions, please leave in comments.

This is the first in the series about unskilled Parenting Coordinators and communicating with the personality disordered.

CoParenting with the Personality Disordered

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New Questions Post

questionI want to give everyone an opportunity to ask new questions. Though there were 51 comments to the last one, there were very few questions. It seems as if a lot of discussion was generated and that was the reason for the large amount of comments. So I’m putting this back up and will give you another few days to ask questions as personally or individualistic as you like. Please feel free to ask long or short or general or specific questions.

If I answer your question and you have follow-up questions, feel free to ask here or in comments on YouTube.


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The Draw of Social Media (and why you need to resist it)

socialnetAre your insides churning? Are you tracking every movement he or she makes? Are you interpreting everything he or she does and trying to figure out which things are really secret messages to you? Are you putting nonsense statuses up on your Facebook page/Twitter feed/Instagram/Snapchat/ etc to get them jealous? angry? sad?

How about or whatever…are you looking at his or her profile and figuring how when he or she is on line? Has he or she suddenly made themselves available again and you’re dying because you can’t stop looking at it.



Immediately defriend the ex and all of the ex’s friends and family from Facebook. Unfollow on Twitter and block on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. Stay off of dating sites. Delete anything that is too tempting for you to have on your computer and not peek at your ex from time to time. That’s right: DELETE.
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Dating Fatigue / Dating Burnout

take a break for lunch coffee or take a a vacation or leisure day off to rest Dating Fatigue and/or Burnout

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October NC CHIPS!!!!!!

We skipped September because the chips came later in August, but now we have a few new people struggling with NC, so please share trials, tribulations, successes, how you did it and what you’re doing to celebrate.

How it works is explained after the jump (the Continue Reading link).




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9/17 Check In Thread

Green Check MarkHow is everyone doing? If you posted at the end of the last check in, feel free to copy it to this one. Unlike many other places, we are okay if you need support and have to re-post and never ever apologize for a long post.

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Unconditional Love

hearts1This article includes the idea that unconditional love MEANS under any condition that life throws at you, not under any condition of how you are treated.

I’ve referred to it in a few different comments lately, but please read and comment with regard to “Was Your Relationship Good For You?”  i.e. did you love each other under any condition?

Unconditional Love

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questionI wrote this article on narcissists for Psychology Today and am following up with one on sociopaths.  If you have questions or comments, let me know and I’ll try to address them in the article.  I’m also writing a section on personality disorders for the new book so if you have questions, feel free to leave those too.


The Pathological Narcissist

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Q: Was Your Relationship Good For You?

questionWas Your Relationship Good For You?

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