Coaching/Counseling Clients/Group Chat-Therapy

It’s been over 2 years since I have taken on any new counseling clients. Starting October 5th I will start taking on a few new phone/Skype clients and after October 15th I will have a few in-person appointments available. I usually have the scheduling software up and will provide a link to it soon. Just FYI.

ALSO 2 exciting new ventures. I did “group therapy” via web ex a few years ago. A once a week bootcamp style that mimicked my in-person bootcamps and it was a pretty good success if people keep the commitment (I’ve had varying degrees of group commitment but works really well if the group is committed). So I’m working on video conferencing (last time we did it only I was visible & participants were audible) where everyone is visible. That will be announced in the next week or so. A once a week meeting for 6 weeks. I hope to have one mixed group and one women’s group. Hope to start in late October. These groups are always helpful for the holidays. They will be limited to 6 people (the number that seems to work best in bootcamps).

The other will be a video seminar, a 2 hour presentation with attendees able to submit questions beforehand and also ask questions at the end. I’ve gone this before and had some issues with lines dropping. Still working on the best software for that. If anyone has suggestions, let me know. Currently working with some tech gurus on it. That is an idea for early November.

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The Power Of Grief


The Power Of Grief

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9/17 Check In Thread

Green Check MarkHow is everyone doing? If you posted at the end of the last check in, feel free to copy it to this one. Unlike many other places, we are okay if you need support and have to re-post and never ever apologize for a long post.

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Unconditional Love

hearts1This article includes the idea that unconditional love MEANS under any condition that life throws at you, not under any condition of how you are treated.

I’ve referred to it in a few different comments lately, but please read and comment with regard to “Was Your Relationship Good For You?”  i.e. did you love each other under any condition?

Unconditional Love

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questionI wrote this article on narcissists for Psychology Today and am following up with one on sociopaths.  If you have questions or comments, let me know and I’ll try to address them in the article.  I’m also writing a section on personality disorders for the new book so if you have questions, feel free to leave those too.


The Pathological Narcissist

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Q: Was Your Relationship Good For You?

questionWas Your Relationship Good For You?

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9/1 Check In Thread

Green Check MarkHappy September! How is everyone doing?

If you shared at the end of the last check-in thread, feel free to repost here.

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On Dancing Out of Control

“When she is starved, a woman will take any substitutes offered, including those that, like placebos, do absolutely nothing for her, as well as destructive and life-threatening ones that hideously waste her time and talents or expose her life to physical danger. It is a famine of the soul that makes a woman choose things that will cause her to dance madly out of control–then to, too near the executioner’s door.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estes “Women Who Run With The Wolves”

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Domestic Violence

stop the painIf you or anyone you know has been a victim of DV and would like to share, there are ppl who come to this post and comment all the time. Some are IN the abuse and some are just getting out. Please share your experience strength and hope (I know some of you have already on here) or share the article so others know there is hope. Thank you.

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Registration Issues

funny cartoon scientistI’ve been working ALL day and then coming home at night every night since June to work on the site. I think I actually fixed the registration issue and a few other things. We still have things that need “doing” but for now a lot of the kinks have been worked out. To help support the site and the new book (we’re going to be shopping it after Labor Day), you can go HERE and see how you can help. Most things you can do to help support the site will cost NOTHING and anything you do spend goes right back into the site. Thank you all for your support and your patience!!!

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8/22 Check in Post

Green Check MarkHow is everyone doing??

GPYB Recommends Other Resources For Recovery

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On Rising Up From the Ashes

abstract swirl of blue on a black backgroundThis was one of the first posts I wrote on the blog. I wrote the long saga of how the blog became a book over the past few days (under To Publication under pages, not that I expect anyone to read all the way through it but some people interested in publishing and others interested in how the blog became a book have been asking…) and to refresh my recollection of which blogs were written first, I was reading the through the first few blog posts and thought this would be a good one to run.  This is one that is partially in the book. Unedited from the original December 2006.

“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.” -Joseph Campbell

When I first left my marriage, I was convinced it was the right thing for about 24 hours. Then I felt plunged into a darkness I had never known before or since. I woke up on day 2 feeling as if I was unraveling. I couldn’t understand it, but I had next to no ability to even begin to understand anything, let alone this HUGE emotional upheaval I seemed to be having. Continue reading

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GPYB Recommends

Recommended iconSeveral people have asked, over the past month, for a reading “list.” It’s here:

GPYB Recommends and will remain on the PAGES at the top of the blog.

Have a question about any of the recommended books or a suggestion? Leave it in comments BELOW! Thank you!

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Book #3 Contributions

VorlageFor those who are new, I’m writing a new book based on this post:

New instructions for sharing your story & please resend if you already have:

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August NC CHIPS!!!!!!

We did our last NC chip post toward the end of June so I skipped July.  But now we have a few new people struggling with NC, so please share trials, tribulations, successes, how you did it and what you’re doing to celebrate.

How it works is explained after the jump (the Continue Reading link).



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